Hello, I’m Leah G. Alfonso. I write so that I may speak.
If you keep up with political news, you might be aware of politically-minded people telling pregnant teenagers across the country not to abort their babies, as well as expressing their anger over Obama making it legal. One of the most common reasons they give not to abort a baby is that a pregnancy is more often than not a natural product of sex, both marital and otherwise. Another common reason—and arguably the most popular—is that a fetus is a baby from the moment of conception.
Those two reasons are important to bring up, don’t get me wrong. However, haven’t you noticed that those are the only reasons people bring forward to convince mothers not to have an abortion? Did you know that there are other reasons against abortion that aren’t usually brought to the table?
For one, some mothers don’t even survive the abortion. According to statistics found on www.abort73.com/abortion_facts/us_abortion_statistics/, over four hundred women died because of legal abortions from 1973 to 2010. It’s not surprising, considering that it is a medical procedure and not all medical procedures are risk free.
Even if there are no complications with the procedure itself, the mother will still be negatively affected by it. Ann Jones writes an article called “How Abortions Could Harm the Mother” (http://www.livestrong.com/article/231837-how-abortions-could-harm-the-mother/ ) that shows how an abortion can physically and psychologically scar the woman for life. Another risk, which is usually the more common consequence of abortion, is that it can complicate future pregnancies.
Now, these things don’t happen every time a woman has an abortion. They still need to be taken into consideration, but they’re about as common as the risks that come with any medical procedure. Be that as it may, they’re still valid reasons that anti-abortionists can use to argue their cases, so why don’t they?
A few months ago, an anti-abortionist shared a letter on his blog (this letter can be found here: http://www.theblaze.com/contributions/dear-woman-whos-getting-an-abortion-tomorrow/ ) written to a woman who had anonymously announced online that she would be having an abortion. In his letter, he commended her for realizing that the child inside her was a human being. He also told her that this would be the baby’s only chance at life, and he/she would never have another one if his/her mother chose to take this chance away. He told her that there are other alternatives to abortion, that there are several couples around the country who would be willing and able to adopt. The letter was truthful on the whole, and touching for the most part.
Granted, this letter was more an appeal to her moral side than an appeal to her selfish side, and these reasons probably wouldn’t have had the same effect. But this isn’t the first time he’s shared his views on abortion. Every time he talks about it, he speaks more on the behalf of the unborn babies than he does for the woman carrying them and the fathers who helped create them. Not once does he mention the risks involved in those procedures, and how the mother could be affected by them. Not once does he say that abortions can and do have a negative impact on future pregnancies, planned and otherwise. Not once does he say that women can and have died as a direct result of abortion.
Okay, let me clarify something before someone accuses me of feeding readers moral poison. I do not think abortion is okay. I don’t. I realize that there are a lot of factors to take in consideration, and the whole what-if-the-mother’s-life-is-at-stake argument is just one of them. Be that as it may, I’m one of those people who believe that a baby is a baby as soon as he’s conceived and he starts growing in the mother’s womb. Causing any harm to a child is not okay, and there are criminals sitting in jail cells who know that. There are other alternatives—in fact, why not adoption? There are plenty of potential mothers and fathers who would love to have a baby, but can’t for one reason or another. And if there are statistics against adoption, there are still plenty of people who’d like to change them for the better.
With all that said, unborn children are not the only people that abortion damages. There are those people who have had a consequence-free abortion and walked away with no regrets. But for every person who walks out of the clinic that way, two others walk out feeling inordinately guilty and hurt. There’s a movement called Silent No More (here’s their website: http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/) dedicated to supporting women who have had an abortion and regretted their decisions. And believe or not, the webpage even shares testimonies from men who, according to the webpage, “regret their lost fatherhood.”
Bottom line: If you are thinking about abortion, you need to know how it’s going to affect you as well as the people around you, especially the father and the child. With any decision that anyone makes, you need to be both selfish and selfless. Think about what’s good for you, but also think about what’s good for the people around you. Just a thought.
Until next time, this is Leah G. Alfonso saying “So long.”
Photo source: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/news/9503860/Eating-nuts-in-pregnancy-reduces-chance-of-childhood-allergy.html
Other sources used: http://www.fatherhoodforever.org/